How can I stop my failing small biz from making me depressed all the time?

@rivensoul Yes the wasting two days taking photos is only one example. I’ve actually wasted a lot more time than that just with photos but on separate occasions. I do sell on Etsy but also have my own website. I tried to get on tik tok shop as well but my items are restricted and no matter where I look I cannot find info on how to submit paperwork to get approved.
Also i really want to get a job to pay off the bills and have been looking for seasonal work but im having another baby in February so getting a long term position isn’t a feasible option right now
 
@keldastar I read a lot of the comments and noticed that you get overloaded with information in regards to marketing and so I would like to recommend you Dan Kennedy NO B.S. books. Start with these two "Ultimate Sales Letter" and "Direct Response Marketing for Non Direct Businesses" - from these two you will get a very clear idea of what marketing is. There are basically 2 overarching categories of marketing 1. Traditional/Big Corp Marketing and 2. Direct Response Marketing.

Your focus should solely be on number 2 at the start before moving to number 1 otherwise you will get yourself confused. Essentially Direct Response Marketing is this: A product, a story, and an offer. The beauty of direct response makreting is that its trackable. For every piece of marketing you do in this field, you can accurately see what worked and what didnt by the sales number.

A few ideas to sell your product not involving marketing...
  1. Approach businesses that sell complimentary products/services to yours and ask them if they would include your product as a free bonus for in their offers in exchange for % of profits they make using this deal. Yeah you will make less than if you sold it yourself, but you arent selling any so, nothing to complain about I guess. Anothet thing and more importantly, this way you get your product out and potentially will recieve new customers (worst case potential hot leads).
  2. Since you sell baby stuff, you can contact people who work with pregnant women like yoga, newborn classes (where ppl teach you about newborns) and whatever else is there. So you contact those folk and tell them that for every product they sell, they get 50% of the profits...
  3. Host "tupperware" type parties and sell your products there. This is a fairly simple and effective method of gaining sales and new customers. The run down of this idea is as follows - invite friends/acquitances to your home for a homeparty sale. Make sure that you explicitly state that there is going to be product pitching/selling involved and that there is going to be FREE alcohol and food (many ppl wont pass this up). This "bribe" is so effective that you can even get strangers who you have known for 5 minutes to agree attending your party. So you host the party, and first start with shittier products or products that you have no intention of actually getting sold. This way the folk will ease in and alcohol will hit in as well. So you do that with 2 shitty products and it should take you 30 to 45 mins. Now finally the 3 product which you have every intention of selling. Make sure your sales script is as best as it can be and make sure to devise some "theatrics" when revealing this product... then you just basically do a sales pitch. Dont wuss out on asking for the sale nor become wimpy/timid when speaking about that subject. Make sure to list the benefits/features and guarantee...
Whats also great about method 3 is that you can get others to join in with you and basically "work" under you.

I hope a few of these ideas helped. If you got any questions let me know.
 
@marcyhoney This is super great advice! I will definitely be reading those books. And I will say that the whole reason I wanted to be on e-commerce is I really didn’t want to have to solicit myself locally but I’ve changed my tune to that recently and realize even though it’s a smaller market than the whole web it would probably be a lot better for me in the long run. And yes I can always try and sell my stuff wholesale locally as well. Fantastic idea
 
@keldastar I appreciate that you are going to read those books based on my recommendation. You know, it feels good to give advice/help others, but it feels even better when it doesnt fall on deaf ears and so your comment has put a smile on my face.

At the start of my career, I never enjoyed soliciting myself either and if I could have gotten away with working under someone while being paid what I desired, I would have hopped on that train without a second thought, but alas, it didnt work that way for me.

You know, it does seem that the bigger the market and the more people you can reach, at face value, it seems like the best option for the most profits, but as you astutely pointed out, that a local/smaller market is better in the long run, I believe that to be the case for a majority of businesses. Its just so much easier and simpler to get A type person to buy than it is to get multiple types of people to buy.

I do hope you are able to get up on your feet, implement new strategies, and achieve the success you desired... And when you do get there and people would ask you "how the hell did you manage to become so successful?" I would shamelessly ask that you mention "A random redditor gave me a few ideas". :)

Good luck.
 
@keldastar First thing first, it's WAY too early to say if your business is failing or not. The average length of time before a new business becomes profitable is two to three years, you are nowhere near that yet. I know it can feel like the sky is falling with so much to do and being so new to it all. You should be working as hard as you can to make your business profitable, but it's VERY rare for it to happen over night, so don't panic.

It may sound rather 'new agey' but start a gratitude journal, I'm a hypnotherapist and frequently get my clients to do this if they are in a slump. It's so easy to overlook the positives when you are worrying so much about the negatives. Every day take a few moments to list what's good about your life, it doesn't need to be massive things like winning millions on the lotto, but obviously do list it if that happens, but all the little things add up too. Just being inside when it rains for example. The more you look for these things the more your brain will learn to find them too. You are welcome to DM me (actual DM, not the chat thing, I have that turned off), if you want to talk one on one away from public eyes.
 
@steve7150 Thank you so much for the helpful tips. I definitely think it’s a case of expectation vs reality. I studied competitors including the amount of sales they were making and their margins and thought it would be easy to at the very least make my money back if not more than that. However I’ve spent about 10k and have maybe made $300 in sales so I was just blindsided.
And the thing that’s really pushing it to the front of my mind is not being able to pay off my cc before I have to start paying interest. And yes I can borrow the money from my husband (we’d have to pull from assets) or family or even open a new 0% Apr credit card and pay a 3% balance transfer - which is what I’ll likely end up doing as I still have good credit.
But not meeting that marker of paying off the credit card when I really really thought I was going to is killer.
I have tried the gratitude journal before but it didn’t stick. I should look into that again. I really do want to be positive about all this. I know I haven’t failed until I quit but dang it’s hard right now.
I might take you up on that dm offer. Thanks so much!
 
@keldastar I am curious what type of business you have, what kind of market you are in, and what your sales expectations of "success" are.

I ask this because some people go into business because they want to be entrepreneurs, but never really sit down and do the "math" to figure out how much business they need to do to be profitable, and by "profitable" I mean after paying your business expenses including your owner salary.

I do consulting for people who are interested in getting into business, not necessarily rescues of failing small business. Good example of this is people want to open coffee/breakfast shops. They want to make $50,000 a year for themselves, have one or two employees, and be open from 7am-1pm six days a week. I look them in the eye, and go "Don't do it," and they immediately ask why. I show them the spreadsheet of expenses and receipts broken down by month for 12, 24, and 36 months and they immediately go, "Oh, I see it now." and then we try to work up alternatives and options. The number of businesses I've walked into on opening day and say to myself, "This place won't be open next year." is shocking.

Now, for suggestions.

First thing to recognize is that organic growth through dependency on social media (TikTok, FB), and word of mouth is next to worthless when it comes to a startup. These avenues are what you do to grow business and expand once established, but right now you are a drop in an ocean of competition and to make your business rise to the top and forefront of shoppers minds is the key.

Think about marketing. If this is a local focused business, radio is the #1 way to grow small business in smaller communities where radio spot time is cheap. You can pick stations and times that target your intended audience and demographic, and focus your spots there. Market primarily to certain ethnic or special interest groups? Advertise where those people are listening. Market a food product? Pick breakfast and dinner time spots when people are hungry. Market holiday focused products? You're going to suffer for months between holidays with no sales -- but focus during those times on radio spots leading up to holidays.

If this is a nationally focused product/business, keep in mind you are in direct competition with offshore companies that pay their people $0.10 an hour. Printed products, custom T-shirts, hats, that sort of thing, you won't make money because your costs are much higher than your chief competitor's costs. To make money in those products, you need branding - unique designs with unique branding, so you can have exclusive production and charge people for the brand not the product. Branded merchandising is a much higher capital venture, because brand awareness requires bigger marketing/advertising budgets.

Tell us what you do, what marketing avenues you're taking, and what your expectations for the "future" are - what your ideal business growth would look like.
 
@ruthofzion Thanks so much for the suggestions. I sell baby and children’s items. I originally wanted to only do gift boxes and to do them for all ages. But I kind of niched myself into babies with the money I spent on the items. And then when the boxes weren’t selling I thought, okay I need to sell things individually. Which still isn’t really working out lol. And I did study what I thought were my competitors but they’re successful and I’m not so I guess I studied the wrong people lol.
I was hoping to make like 1-2k a month and thought if it gets a little bigger, great! But I don’t need 6 figures level. I thought I would at least be able to start paying off my credit card but I’ve only made like $300 in sales through those items.
I did also think that I would even be busy enough during q4 that I would hire someone to help me package orders and such. Lolz.

Thank you for your insights on what to do next. You always hear about everyone blowing up on TikTok and their stores going crazy. But I know that’s nothing to rely on and you DONT hear about all the people that didn’t happen to.
I do really need to put myself into my local market more.
 
@keldastar Wondering what you've done for marketing? What platforms are you selling on? Is it a direct Shopify store or are you using marketplaces?

What are you doing for advertising?
 
@pinkey123 I am not doing marketing and I know I need to. I have a Shopify and sell on Etsy. I only wanted to sell on Etsy but I wasn’t getting the traffic I thought I would ( I sold other items on Etsy in a much more competitive market and made more sales/money) so I thought this would be easier and it’s not lol.
 
@keldastar If you're open to recommendations, just follow a tutorial on a Google Search Terms ad. You'll figure it out if you stick to it and follow through. Put $15-20 a day toward ads just to get people to your site. That way you can see is it a traffic issue or something else. They're relatively easy to set up and understand but you have to walk your way through it the first time.
 
@keldastar I think you're fighting against problem #1 when it comes to business -- your niche is "too niche". According to statistics, the birthrate in the USA (as a whole) is about 60 births per 1000 women of childbearing age. If you add in the grandmothers and aunts and friends, you -might- be targeting "a few %" of the population as potential customers. Then, you have the task of convincing those potential customers that your product is valuable and unique and a good gift idea.

I would think first about expanding the footprint of who your gift box ideas are aimed at. I used to be a partner in a small business decades ago that did gift boxes, hand-delivered to college students at exam time and holidays at local colleges. Candy bars, stuffed animals, books, etc.
 
@ruthofzion Yes I niched myself much smaller than I wanted too. I wanted to do gift boxes for all ages but when I was doing inventory I just hyper focused on baby stuff and spent all the money I had allotted on baby items so I said eh I guess that’s what I’m doing now
 
@keldastar I've seen multiple people tell you it's too early to know yet. I disagree. It may be too early, but not making sales at a 50% discount during the holidays for your market is real market feedback.

When you feel tension as an entrepreneur, listen to it, and be honest with yourself. It may be a business, but if you're body is telling you no and it's making you unhappy, it could be denial.

As to the $6k, 3% to kick the can down the road is a bad investment. If you have the cash, pay it off. It will have the added benefit of making what you're doing more real.
 
@corbinw It also depends how many people even saw that 50% discount though. It could be a problem of not enough eyeballs coming across the sale or site or product at all.

I saw previously she had difficulty running a Google Ad campaign which means she could be making sales if she gets ads running correctly and on the right platforms.
 
@keldastar It's only money. It's not that important in the relative scheme of things in life. Life is about friends, family, health, fun. And you can still have a great life even if things dont' work out financially. Put things in perspective. Think about the + things in your life. This doesn't matter that much IMHO.
 
@keldastar Close it out to bankrupsy (if you can do so without that throwing off the rest of your life) and move on.

When you DO something, you will either Fail or Succeed. Always try to set things up before you DO something so that neither outcome will ruin your life. Then Fail Fast if your going to.
 
@613jono Thanks for the advice but it’s only 6k. I’m not going to ruin my excellent credit over that. I can find other means or transfer the balance until I can make money.
 

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